The Hunt

Is The Hunt actually everything there is for people?

By the term The Hunt I refer to the endless hunt of a partner. Is that really SO important? To me, it seems like to some people that's everything there is to life. When you've found your partner you're happy; happiness is impossible before that. Of course I understand that it feels great to have someone beside you, someone who supports you etc. But you DON'T HAVE TO have a partner to be happy.

This endless search seems to destroy people. We live in a very dogmatic society where every person who's still single at 22 are seen as failures, to some extent that is. When relatives and friends ask if someone has found someone and they get a negative answer their usual reaction is "Oh, I'm sorry... that's too bad. But you'll find someone soon" WHAT kind of an answer is that? Do they really think the person is someway unhappy just because of that? People who live alone are usually considered as loners, even though they probably have a much wider range of friends and acquaintances as people who live in relationships have.

I'm not saying that everyone should live alone, I'm not saying that it's what I necessarily want. I'm just saying that it's nothing to have pressure over. I think that's one of the main reasons why people are depressed. It's not because they feel that they're lonely when they're single. It's because they feel that they aren't normal because of that, that there's something wrong with them.

Besides, I think most of the marriages which end up in divorce are because the couple just forced themselves to be with somebody they to some extent couldn't even imagine to love in a way they should. There are things you can't do if you're single, but there's also a lot of things you can't do when you're in a relationship, and I'm not only talking about sex... For example such regular thing as reading a book as long as you like in the evening, waking up when you want, making the food you want, when you want etcetc.

To conclude this: bläh.